Columnists :: Talk It Out
Top Or Bottom? These Terms Carry Meaning Out of the Bedroom
Many bottoms have a stigma about being considered effeminate and other stereotypes. Such fears may hide a wider self-internalized homophobia.
Dr. Vince Pellegrino has PhDs in educational theater and drama therapy from New York University and is a board-certified psychotherapist in New York City and Connecticut. He teaches communications at Hofstra University. He is currently working on a book, Gay Communication Game, about "Gayspeak"; an interactive TV program featuring real-time therapy sessions is in development.
Other Recent Columns
A Modern Guide to Basic Good Manners
An unfortunate Mother’s Day incident with a very, very incorrigible college-age nephew inspired me to write a set of guidelines for the most basic good behavior in the over-sharing social media age.
Families Look to Gay Children to Tend to Elderly Parent
When my mother had an accident during my road trip to Florida, I knew I would be seeing more of her, despite my having two close siblings living closer to her than I am.
Sense of Relief at Osama’s Death
The song that immediately came to mind when I heard the news was ’Ding Dong the Witch Is Dead’ from ’The Wizard of Oz.’
My Ex’s Death Another Casualty of Gay Men Abusing Steroids
When I heard my ex-lover had died suddenly, I immediately knew that his ongoing abuse of anabolic steroids was at least partly to blame. Add him to the casualty list of friends who died because they wanted to look ’perfect.’
Horrific In-Home Murder Calls for Justice - & Caution
The horrific in-home death of a gay man in New York City brings up the specter of the potential of violence when allowing a stranger into one’s home -- under any circumstances.
Whitney Houston’s Death: Seeking Answers & Searching for Meaning
As were we all, I was shocked & saddened by the death of this great talent. The apparent emptiness from which she sought refuge in addictions speaks to all of us who are hurting inside.
Ways to Beat Those Winter Doldrums
Everyone tends to feel a little more blue in the wintertime. Here are a few ways to beat the doldrums and get the pep back, even if the temperature stays in single digits.
Yes, You Can Realize Your New Year’s Resolutions
In order to keep our New Year’s resolutions, the first one should be not to beat ourselves up over New Year’s resolutions. The second should be to reach out to others to help us achieve our goals.
Another Young Life Taken From Us
The death- whether suicide or other causes - of the grandson of screen goddess Rita Hayworth yet again points to the hopelessness that so many gay young people experience.
The Hurtful Unreality of Gay Reality Shows
As a veteran of a gay reality TV series, I can testify that these shows inaccurately depict the participants. Even though the train-wreck perspective can be fun to watch, the overall effect of such shows as Logo’s ’A Lists’ is ultimately harmful.
