Re-Thinking Our Sexuality
Despite progress on other fronts, the constructs and prejudices of heteronormativity continue to pervade our private lives and complicate our personal relationships. I’d like to see us challenge some of the common walls that inhibit healthy sexual expression and identity.
Here are some suggestions for dismantling these barriers.
This is 2013. In an age of proven medical treatment and safety precautions, HIV is no longer a valid reason for sexual exclusion. In fact, individuals who are not tested and do not know their status pose a much higher risk to sexual partners than positive individuals who are being treated.
Studies show that one out of five people living with HIV are unaware that they have it. This means that the likelihood of a sexually active adult completely avoiding contact with a person who has contracted HIV is slim to nothing.
Penalizing someone with HIV for his honesty isn’t in the best interest of your health. Assuming we’re talking about someone on retroviral drugs, the virus has been essentially eradicated from bodily fluids. While the normal level of precaution should be taken, your risk of contracting the virus is actually lower than it would be with the average person on the street. So don’t deny yourself meaningful experiences based on outdated science.
Glancing through online profiles on gay hook-up sites can be a step back to another century: "Masculine only"; "No Blacks or Asians"; " "No one over 30." Others may not wish to express their personal prejudices so openly, but too many of us retain conscious or subconscious feelings through social conditioning.